Marriage Interviews

Courtship

· When and where did you meet for the first time?

· Could you please describe the first meeting?

· Did you make arrangement to meet again?

· Did you exchange phone numbers and/or email address?

· When id you meet next?

· Where were you living at the time? Where was your spouse living

· What did the two of you have in common?

· Where did you go for the dates?

· When did your relationship turn romantic?

· Who proposed to whom?

· Why did you decide to have a long (or short) engagement?

· How long was it before you decided to get married?

· When did you decide to get married?

· Did you live together before marriage?

· Did your parents approve to the match? Why or why not?

You and your Spouse

What are your name, address and date of birth?
What are the name, address and date of birth of your spouse?
What did you do for your spouse’s last birthday?
How often and what time do you call each other by phone?
Which holidays do you celebrate together?
What activities did you do together the last time you visited each other?
Which of your financial matters are shared, or who supports the other financially?
Do you and/or your spouse have any scars or tattoos? If yes, where on the body?
Where do you work?
What time do you or your spouse arrive home (whoever is working):
What is your working hours?
What is your annual salary?
Where does your spouse work?
What are your spouses working hours?
What days of the week does you spouse work?
What is your phone number at work?
What is your spouse’s phone number at work?
Do you know your spouse’s salary, If yes, how much is it?
Do you and/o you spouse attend regular religious services? Where?
Do you have any joint bank accounts? Where? What kind of accounts (checking, saving, money marketing etc)?
Are both to you listed on the accounts? As a proof, do you have a bank letter or cancelled checks
Who takes care o paying the bills?
What religious holidays do you celebrate together?
What is the most important holiday of the year in your household? Where do you typically celebrate it?
What did the two of you do last New Year’s Eve? Fourth of July? Thanksgiving, Christmas?
How did you celebrate your most recent wedding anniversary?
Have you and your spouse gone to see a movie (or any other form of entertainment) lately? When and what did you see?
When was your last vacation you and your spouse took together?
Where did you go? How did you get there? Could you please describe in detail?
Did you have photos from you last vacation together?
Did you file a joint tax return this year? Can I see a copy of it?
Do you jointly own any property? If yes, can I see the copies of the documents?
Do you have an insurance policy listing your spouse as the beneficiary? If yes, can I see copy of the same?
Do you have any utility bills where both of you are listed together?
Do you have receipts from items you have purchased together?
What other documentation do you have to prove that you are living together as a married couple?
What did you do for Christmas, New Years, your anniversary? Did you exchange gifts? If so, what kind of gift?

Wedding

Where was the wedding held?
How did you and your spouse get to the church, temple, mosque, gurudwara, courthouse etc?
How many people attending you weddings?
Who were the witnesses to the ceremony?
Did each of your parents attend the wedding?
What kind of cake or other food was served?
Did you serve the liquor? What kind?
Did anyone get drunk of otherwise embarrass themselves at the reception? Who? Describe.
How late did the guest stay at the wedding?
Did you exchange wedding rings? Did you and your spouse purchase them together or separately?
Was there music or other entertainment?
Who were the bridesmaids/groomsmen?
Did you have a reception after the ceremony?
If you didn’t have a reception, what did you do after the wedding ceremony?
Where was the reception held?
Could you please describe the reception?
Could you please show me any photos of the wedding ceremony and/or reception?
Did the bride change clothes for the reception?
What time did you and the bride or the groom leave the reception?
Did you go to a honeymoon? When did you leave? How did you get there? Where did you go? For how long? What airlines?
Where did you live after the wedding?

Relatives

Do you know your spouse’s family members? Which ones?
Have you met each other’s parents?
When did you see them last? For how long? Where?
Do you buy gifts for your in-laws on important holidays? Do they buy gifts for you?
Which other members of you spouse’s family do you see frequently? When was the last time you saw them?
How often do you see each other’s parents?
How do each of you get along with your parents-in-law?

Children

How many children do you have?
What are names, birth dates and birth place (hospital name, city) or each child?
Which children were normal delivery and which ones where c-section?
What is the name of your child’s best friend?
Who prepares and packs the lunch for you children?
What is your usual babysitter’s name? What are the day care timings?
What is the name of your child’s teacher?
Who picker up the children form school?
What is their least favorite food?
Which children (if any) still use a car seat?
What are the favorite toy/activities of you children?
If you spouse has children from a previous marriage, what are their names, ages, where they live, and where they go to school, in applicable?

House

Could you please describe the place where you lived right after the marriage? No. of bedrooms and bathrooms; furnishing; color of walls, floor coverings, appliances, etc. type of air conditioning (window or central), heating (gas or electrical), etc; number of telephones, TV sets etc.
Do you live on a house (single family, condominium, townhouse) or apartment? How much is the mortgage of rent? Who pays it?
Who cleans the house?
What are the garbage pick up day?
Do you write checks for paying the bills or online billing?
What type of curtains or window coverings is in your living room? What color?
Who gets up first? At what time?
Do you set up the alarm clock to get up in the morning?
What does each of you eat for breakfast?
How many staircases are in your house?
Is there a carpet in your front hallway? What color?
Do you have any pets? Which ones (such as dog, cat, fish etc)? Who walks it or cleans it cage, kitty litter box etc?
How many sinks, toilets, and showers are there in your house/ apartment in total?
Is your sofa a regular one or does it have pullout bed? If later, have you ever hand guests sleep there?
Where did you get the furniture? Was the furniture already there, did you buy it, was it a gift, or did you come from you, or your spouse’s previous residence?
How was the furniture transported to the house?

Technology

· Who keeps the garage door opener in the car?

· How many remote controls are there in you house?

· How many cars do you have?

· Do you have garage? How many cars fit into it? Who parks in it? Do you use a garage door opener?

· How many telephones are in you house? Where are they?

· Do both of you have cell phones? Do you have family plan on the phones?

· Does your phone have answering machine? Who checks the messages?

· Do you have VCR? What brand? Do you use it only to watch videos, or do you record any TV shows?

· Do you have DVD player? What brand?

· Were do you rent the movies from?

· Does your spouse listen to the radio? What station?

· Do you have cable TV or satellite dish?

· Who is the cable TV provider in you house?

· Does your spouse listen to music? What kind of equipment does he/she have such a Walkman, bipod etc.

· How many TV set are in your house? In which rooms?

· Do you watch TV shows together, or separately?

· Name one TV show that you always watch together.

· Do you have still camera? In that digital camera or the one with the roll?

· Who uses the camera most often?

· Who takes pictures at important family occasions or during sightseeing?

· Do you have camcorder? What brand is it?

Kitchen

Who goes for grocery shopping? Where? How often, how do you get there?
What color are the kitchen curtains?
Who makes breakfast?
What does you spouse drink in the morning? (Such as coffee, tea, milk etc) If so, does he/she use cream and/or sugar?
What is your spouse’s most (or least) favorite food?
Is there a particular food that you eat every week? What is it?
What are your favorite foods and who cooks what?
Do you have a barbecue grill? Do you use it? Is it gas or charcoal?
Who does most of the cooking?
How many times a week on average do you eat out?
What is your special restaurant?
Where is the garbage kept in the kitchen

Bedroom

What size is your bed (twin, queen, king)?
Do you have a regular mattress, futon, or waterbed?
Who sleeps on each side of the bed?
Does either of you read or watch television before going to sleep?
Do you have lamps next to your bed?
Have you ever had an argument that resulted in one of you sleeping in another room? Who, and which room?
What kind of birth control do you use? What brand do you use?
When was your wife’s last menstrual period?
Do you leave any lights on when you go the sleep at night?
How many windows are there is your bedroom?
Where do you keep you toothbrushes?
Does you spouse use regulate toothbrush or an electrical one?
What kind of toothpaste, soap, and shampoo does each of you use?
Where to you keep you clothes? Where does you spouse keep his/her clothes?
What color are you spouse’s pajamas?
Where are the bathroom towels kept?
Where do you keep the dirty clothes?

Just before the Interview

Did you or your spouse go to work yesterday?
If so, at what time did you and/or spouse leave the house and return?
Did you eat dinner together last night? What did you have?
Did anyone else have dinner with you last night?
Who cooked the dinner last night? What time was dinner served?
Did you watch TV after dinner? What shows did you watch?
Who went to bed first?
As what time did you go the bed?
Did you have AC, fan or heater on?
Who work up first this morning? Did an alarm clock go off?
Did you or your spouse take a shower this morning?
Did you have breakfast? Where and what did you eat?
Did you come to the interview together? Who drove?